Is my child lazy or is it a learning disability/ ADHD?

by Mona White, M.Ed.

That’s a great question parents ask, and it’s important to differentiate between lack of motivation and a potential learning or attention disorder. Children who struggle with Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, Dyscalculia, or ADHD often get mislabeled as “lazy” because their challenges are not always visible.

Dr. Mel Levine’s perspective in The Myth of Laziness is a powerful reminder that what looks like a lack of motivation is often a neurological difficulty, not a character flaw. Many children who struggle with productivity actually face barriers such as:

• Language production difficulties – Trouble organizing or expressing thoughts in writing or speech

• Executive function challenges – Poor time management, difficulty making choices, or procrastination due to overwhelm

• Memory weaknesses – Inability to retrieve learned information, making it seem like they haven’t studied or paid attention

These are classic symptoms of learning disabilities like Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, and ADHD. If a child frequently struggles with getting their ideas onto paper, completing tasks on time, or staying organized, they may be experiencing “output failure” rather than choosing not to work. Additionally, there is no true “pay-off” for being lazy. Most children and adults alike want to be successful. They want to please their parents, teachers, supervisors, peers, etc.

An evaluation can help determine if your child is dealing with a learning difference or attention-related challenges rather than simply avoiding work.

Here are some key signs that may indicate a need for an evaluation:

Possible Signs of a Learning Disability

• Reading difficulties: Slow, inaccurate, or struggles with comprehension

• Writing challenges: Messy handwriting, trouble organizing thoughts on paper, or frequent spelling errors

• Math struggles: Difficulty understanding numbers, memorizing facts, or solving problems

• Avoidance: Refuses or delays schoolwork, often becoming frustrated

Possible Signs of ADHD

• Inattention: Easily distracted, forgetful, makes careless mistakes

• Hyperactivity: Constantly moving, fidgeting, or talking excessively

• Impulsivity: Interrupts others, has difficulty waiting, or acts without thinking

When to Seek an Evaluation

If your child is consistently struggling in school, despite putting in effort, and you notice frustration, anxiety, or emotional distress about learning, an evaluation may provide clarity. A proper assessment can determine if a learning disability or ADHD is present and what supports might help them succeed.

Would you like help deciding what type of evaluation would be most appropriate? Check out our free screenings, or contact us to help move your child from frustration to success!